We are families who trusted our church with our children, our marriages, and our faith. We are sharing what we learned so you can make an informed decision.
These are the voices of families who have experienced it firsthand. Names are withheld for their protection.
We were told to trust the process. The process destroyed our family. I wish someone had given us these questions before we walked through those doors.
When I raised concerns about how my family was being treated, I was told I was being divisive. Within a month, we were completely isolated from our community.
I signed a care team contract without understanding what I was giving up. No licensed professional would ever ask a family to agree to those terms.
A judge recognized the church by name within five minutes of testimony and described the pattern of harm she had seen in other cases. That tells you everything.
Your identity will never be shared without your explicit consent.
Six things every family should understand before trusting a church with their children, their marriage, or their faith.
Who has access to your children and how were they vetted?
Know the difference between licensed therapy and pastoral counseling. Your sanity and safety is on the line.
When pastoral care turns to coercive control, it could cost you your children.
Is it care or is it gossip?
Who answers to who and why churches need accountability
Recognize the signs of coercion, control, and manipulation in a church setting
Most parents assume their church has done the work. Here is how to verify it for yourself.
There is a difference between spiritual guidance and institutional control over your family.
Mental health professionals and family court judges have identified a pattern.
What happens when what you share in private becomes a tool for manipulation and control.
If you have experienced or witnessed harmful behavior at your church, your story can help protect other families. Everything shared is confidential unless you choose otherwise.
This site provides questions and publicly available information for public consideration. It does not make factual allegations. If your church would like to respond to any of these questions, we welcome their transparency. Maintained by a group of concerned families.